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Health, as an enduring attribute, unfolds in a living process within the spiral of life. It includes but is broader than the absence of disease or illness.



          The Dwelling Place began more than two decades ago with a focus on choices at various crossroads of living which included choosing different rhythms in relational patterns with people, animals and things. Some of these relational patterns involved “habits of the heart” such as eating, smoking, and personal connections with others; choosing among alternatives for care of aging relatives, and choosing ways of dying. As I worked with people, I became increasingly aware of an underlying theme of loss in so many of these situations.


"What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from….in my beginning is my end."

- T. S. Eliot

          Over time, my purpose shifted to a concentrated focus on issues of loss and grief, the natural companion of all loss. As the spiral of life unfolds in kaleidoscopic patterns of beginnings and endings, loss is inevitable and universal throughout living. And indeed, every loss in every beginning and ending is grieved and mourned---in some way. The shifting, changing rhythms of these kaleidoscopic patterns bear witness to the wisdom that there is no definitive border that marks the end of the beginning or the beginning of the end of this spiral. In dwelling with this shifting perspective, I began to see that the stages approach to grief became increasingly contradictory and added an additional burden of confusion to an already very painful process. Stages imply a definitive sequence of beginning and ending in a lateral trajectory: as people found that this did not “fit” what they were experiencing, they wondered if they were “not normal”.
"There is no grief like the grief that does not speak." - Longfellow
          Today, my practice is focused on guiding individuals, families and groups through the difficult terrain of the work-of-grief. At The Dwelling Place, we will explore grief as the natural healing process that accompanies all loss: grief is not a sickness from which you get better or get over nor does it ascend through stages to acceptance and recovery. But grief must be expressed or it can contribute to making you sick. At The Dwelling Place, we will explore the difficult work-of-grief that helps you to express what you are experiencing---in your time and in your way. In choosing to embrace and dwell with this most painful process exist opportunities for growth within the increasingly complex spiral of life.

The Medical Center East

211 North Whitfield Street - Pittsburgh, PA 15206

(412) 441-5187